The Misconceptions and Concerns of Genital Modification
As a society, we have formed an unnecessary taboo surrounding many forms of genital modification, and in turn, there are many misconceptions and concerns surrounding this topic that I hope to clear up for all of you over the course of this blog post.
From the gay BDSM scene of the 70’s and 80’s, to the ancient Maya, genital piercing holds firm cultural importance and place in human history. Whether it is for aesthetics, sexual, or body ritual reasons, genital piercings are some of the most commonly sought out adornments for people of all walks of life to acquire.
“Oh my gosh, how could anyone do that? It would hurt so bad!” is a question I regularly answer for people, and the answer is simple–As long as humans have existed, we have pierced any sufficient tissue we can grab and put a needle through. Penises and vulva are no exception to the deeply rooted instinctual need humans have to mark and pierce our flesh. Genital piercings have been used for many different reasons from culture to culture, society to society, we derive the placement of many of the piercings we still do today from peoples who frequently and primarily used these piercings as “coming of age” and other forms of body ritual.
As mentioned before, we also need not forget the importance the gay BDSM and leather community played in modernizing male genital piercings. Jim Ward, Doug Malloy, and Fakir Musafar are widely praised for their contributions to making male genital piercings a western practice, popularizing the Prince Albert, Hafada, and guiche piercings within these communities, and are to this day the most popular male genital piercings.
Well, now that we have the quick overview of “why” out of the way, it’s time to address the “How”. “How much do these piercings hurt?” “How do I have intercourse?” Well, coming from my personal experience, male genital piercings can be some of the least painful, as well as some of the most painful piercings you can receive. Pain is a relative scale, and varies greatly between person-to-person, and is important to remember when considering any type of piercing. Of the piercings I have acquired over the years, my Prince Albert has been, by far, the absolute least painful piercing i have ever received, and adds a great amount of stimulation during intercourse. Most piercings that travel through the urethra will add a completely unique sensation that most men are not used to, unless they engage in sounding play. The urethra is full of nerve endings that can be stimulated through movement of the jewelry during intercourse.
Something I am frequently asked is, “Well, how much stimulation will I get out of this piercing”, and the answer is very multi-faceted and is determined on a multitude of different factors. First and foremost, I will make clear that no two people will have the same experience with a given piercing. Generally speaking though, we see people fall into one of three categories:
- The piercing adds a normal amount of stimulation
- The piercing adds absolutely no stimulation.
- The piercing adds too much stimulation.
We very rarely experience people who fall into category 3, though, most people fall into category 1.
Another point that is important to address, is how the piercing will affect your partner, male or female. As with anything, it is important to pay attention to how your partner reacts to what you are doing- in simpler terms, if it hurts, stop immediately to avoid bodily harm.
As someone who has had both male and female partners, I can say that most people do enjoy having jewelry in place for intercourse, but for those who don’t, jewelry is easily removed and put right back in afterwards if your piercing is fully healed. These piercings can, generally be stretched to significant sizes fairly easily. For obvious reasons, the larger the piece of jewelry you wear, the likelihood of you being able to wear it for sex greatly diminishes. With that said, it comes down to your partner, as everyone is different.
I am a very outspoken advocate of genital piercing, because in my opinion, they hold the deepest cultural significance and have had the most impact on my own life in both a spiritual/ritual as well as sexual way. In the words of Mateo Way (piercer, former owner of Way Body Arts in Santa Cruz, CA), “Know your roots, pierce your genitals!”
As with any piercing, we have a piercing staff at both our Sugarhouse as well as West Valley location 7 days a week for any questions or concerns you may have regarding a piercing you are considering, or a piercing you currently have. No appointments necessary.