7. Do your research. If you’re reading this blog, you’re already off to a good start. If you don’t know much about anal sex, take a little time to find out more before you jump right in. It can be a bit tricky and painful if you’re not careful, so pick up a book or DVD, like the ones we carry here at Blue Boutique, to help you get a better understanding of what to and not to do.
6. Talk about it. Anal sex isn’t something you should decide to just up and do in the heat of the moment – especially without both partners complete consent. Again, it can be very uncomfortable if not approached properly, so make sure both partners are willing, ready, and you have all the necessary accoutrements to make it an enjoyable experience for everyone.
5. Prepare yourself. Eat light beforehand and make sure to empty the pipes, if you know what I mean. If you’re still concerned about cleanliness, you can pick up an anal douche (at your favorite local sex shop!) and do that as well. Find a way to relax both your body and your mind. Candles, music, massage…maybe a cocktail? Whatever helps you loosen up, do it.
4. Go slow. Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint, okay? Almost all of the failed attempts and bad experiences occur because of a lack of patience. For some people it may not even happen on the first try. Don’t be discouraged or try and force it before the time is right, otherwise the backdoor you’re trying to open may go on permanent lockdown. A little (or a lot) of foreplay can go a long way in making this a great experience for both partners time and time again.
3. Start small. You can always work your way up, but if you start with something too large it can taint the whole experience. A finger, some beads, or a small anal plug work well. Once you are comfortable with the sensation of having something in there and your muscles start to relax you can move on to bigger and better things.
2. No double dipping. You don’t like it when someone does it to the guacamole at the party, so why would you want to do it to your body? This needs to be a hard rule if you’d like to keep things uninfected and decontaminated. If you think you may want to switch it up at some point during your romp, make sure to wear a condom (or put one over a finger or toy) and change it before you switch holes!
1. Bring the lube! Plenty of it, please. This is my number one tip for a reason – because unlubricated butt sex is never a good plan. Never. Ever. I promise. Whether you use a regular lube, an anal one, or a desensitizing/relaxing formula, just make sure you put plenty of it on right from the beginning and have it handy to reapply. Your booty doesn’t produce any lubrication of its own, so it’s up to you to keep your backdoor sexy time slippery.